Dani and I were talking about this week and I feel like its a conversation we all need to hear/have.
This past week has been H-A-R-D for both of us. It’s been a season of transition for us. As I am sure you all know, whenever you are going through a transitional season, it gets hard for you to do things.
We were both struggling with showing up for ourselves and for others. We were beating ourselves up about it because we felt like we were being “loafs” for taking moments to lay in bed or on the couch. Time that we NEEDED. We needed to chill TF out cause its been emotionally hard.
But instead of actually chilling out, we were becoming more stressed because we felt guilty for taking time for ourselves. Read that again. We felt GUILTY for giving ourselves time to recharge.
I’m sorry. What.
Why do we do this to ourselves?! Like its not a prize to be the most busy or most stressed out but for SOME DANG REASON we think it is.
All of this to say. We need to cut this out. If you’re in a season of hard IT’S OKAY to take extra time to yourself. It’s going to take longer to fill your cup when you’re going through it. Take some time. Fill your cup up. Give yourself some dang grace.
Welcome back to this week’s episode of The Messy Imperfection! We decided to lighten it up a bit this week as the last few episodes have been h-e-a-v-y. Listen in as we talk about a little bit of everything. Buckle in for the ride!
Listen in for a special episode as we chat about the diet culture and body positivity. We thoroughly believe our culture is broken and are learning to navigate how to be both body positive and health conscious.
What is it that you’re avoiding? Is it a project? A workout? A person? Quitting a job? Starting a new job? Passion project? Nutrition program? Laundry? Dishes?
Time and time again I find myself procrastinating on the things I need to do.
That laundry? Yep still sitting in the corner unfolded.
This weekend, I found myself DREADING to work out. Literally would have traded my soul to not go for a run. But I promised myself all weekend that I would go for a run when I got off work.
So I downed the pre-workout, tied my shoes, turned on some jams, and off I went.
And when I finished… I felt so damn good.
When that laundry gets folded, I know I will feel the same way.
If we feel this good when we finish a task, why do we avoid it? I literally have no idea. Zero answers for you on that front.
What I can tell you is this: it helps if you schedule the task in.
All these projects I want to avoid, I put it in my calendar on when I will do it. I always say “If it’s not on my schedule, it doesn’t exist”
Take ALL those things you’re avoiding and put it on your calendar. Even if it’s a big task or complex, put small tasks on there. Start chipping away. Cause when you are finished… you will feel SO DAMN GOOD.
I remember growing up how I bounced between friends constantly. No one had my back. I couldn’t trust anyone. It was horrific. I would have “friends” that I would find talking behind my back or making fun of me. None of them were true.
I’m not really sure if that came first or if me trying to be someone I wasn’t came first. Either way, the older I got, the more I tried to pretend to be someone I wasn’t. I either lied to try and win people over or make myself smaller because someone else shined brighter.
This caused so many issues as you could imagine. My self-worth was wrapped up in other people. I hit rock bottom more times than I would like to admit.
Then one day, I was pushed to get help. I started therapy. I started to really work on myself and figure out why I was acting the way I was. And you know what..? It was the best thing I ever did myself.
If I didn’t work on myself, I would have never have these friends. These friends are the ones I never thought existed. We have each other’s backs. We call one another out. We love hard. We laugh. We cry. Seeing joy in them brings tears to my eyes.
If I didn’t work on myself, I would not have these friends. It’s a humbling. And I am so grateful for it.
So if you don’t have these types of friends in your life, start working on yourself. Your true friends will show up.